Well let’s look at this plant study first …
Plants and Hate Speech – IKEA’s Experiment
Ikea conducted their own experiment last year, in a school in the Middle East, where they placed two plants.
The plants received the same treatment in terms of water, light and fertilizer. But for 30 days the first plant was exposed to words of encouragement and kind comments, while the second one received only criticism and harsh remarks.
At the end, the states of the two were compared.
After 30 days there was a clear difference in the plants’ wellbeing. The one that received compliments was thriving, while the one that received criticism showed signs of struggling and had droopy brown leaves.
The results spoke for themselves.
Now, if you can do this to a plant over 30 days, imagen what we do to ourselves over our lifetime.
We assume others judge us the same way we judge ourselves.
Let’s break this down …
We obsess over our own image/life and tend to think that’s the same way others view/judge us too. We sometimes even judge others the same way we judge ourselves.
“We are our own worst critics” – AN NA
For example … If you struggled or currently struggle with acne, you probably assume others focus on your skin the same way you focus on your own skin. This may lead you to thinking that others judge you as hard as you judge yourself so you set the bar high for not only yourself, but those around you too.
“Don’t believe everything you think about yourself “ – Jerry Bridges
We start this vicious negative cycle of obsessing over our own flaws, then assuming those around us think the same thoughts so we focus on them too, which leaves us feeling even worse because you either judge them or envy them.
” A big part of our development is to recognize our own fixation, to recognize how we measure ourselves and consciously choose our metric for ourselves.
But another big part of development is to recognize that everyone has their own metric. And that metric is likely not going to be the same as ours. ” – Mark Manson
To break the negative cycle, we must realize that others don’t view us the same way we view ourselves. Our thoughts can sometimes be misleading.
It’s okay to set high standards but you must also tell yourself that the success you achieve is accomplished in the growth along the way. Those standards are there to help you become a better YOU, regardless if you achieve them or not.
How our thoughts affect our skin
In a world to focused on me, its easy to find yourself surrounded with your own reflection ie. mirros, cellphones, windows and more.
We see ourselves each morning, and if your first thought is ” My skin looks terrible” then you have already set the mood for the day. Negative.
Emotions effect your skin. Sadness, anger, fear, anxiety, self-hate and more can trigger acne, eczema and rosacea flare-ups.
How you see yourself, affects how you feel on the inside and then snowballs into a physical response.
When healing the body, you have to heal your heart too.
Heal how you look at yourself, how you talk to yourself, how you talk about yourself and how you view others compared to yourself.
A plant doesn’t have ears yet you can start to kill it with negativity within 30 days.
You have to be kind to yourself by framing your world with the right words.
Others don’t expect you to have perfect skin. If they do, their views are a mirror in which you should not look.
You have to speak blessings over your life and learn to love yourself.
Start your day off positive. Every little bit helps.
Throw away your magnifying mirror. No one is looking at your skin that up close (except maybe your aesthetician) so why stress about the little blemishes only you can see.
Attacking that one pimple will not make it disappear … it will actually only make it bigger and prolong it’s stay. This will only stress you out more.
Stressing about your skin and judging yourself for it, will only negatively impact your life.
The purpose of this blog post is to help you see that what you think about yourself affects you emotionally, leading too symptoms in the physical.
What is your mirror saying to you today ?